Too Strong

Give’m a hand, give them a hand…it doesn’t matter how you say it or how you spell it. Sometimes people just need help. The weak always have a genuine need, but guess what…so do the strong! Do you ever remember a time when all you wanted was for somebody to just listen to you? You didn’t necessarily want someone to have pity on you, but you just wanted either an in depth conversation about something specific or you wanted to voice your position on something that may have been near and dear to your heart.

Did you get someone to hear you?

Did you get someone to give you their almighty view point without really knowing what your issue was?

Did you get someone that heard part of what they assumed you where saying, and they were off to the races?

or did you get someone to hear you, respond to you, explain with you your view point and put your concerns reasonably at ease?

We live in such a fast paced and insensitive society that we can barely listen to ourselves. I mean it’s really hard enough to keep up with our own thoughts. So when you need someone (hopefully not a mentor or coach) they can’t even slow down enough to listen or evaluate open-mindedly.

Is it your fault because you never need help, you never needed help or you never seemed to need help. That’s totally un-realistic. We all need help now and then and we can’t get in our own way by not asking.  We just have to filter our circle and ask the right people (not always more than one). The right people can only give us their best if they are really listening. You cannot expect guarantees on a specific outcome in most cases.

Our society has to realize that strength is measurable, just like success. Nobody is strong everyday, in every way and never has uncertainties. Our vulnerabilities is part of what makes us human. We need to be honest with ourselves and honest with each other and stop trying to act like we’re hercules or the MVP of ALL.

TIP #1

Do not expose your feelings and shortcomings to everyone around you.

TIP #2

Filter your contacts when you have a down moment, so that you know you will be heard and so that you know they have something to offer you in return (this probably will not be a big list).

TIP #3

When you reach out to them thank them and take their advice to heart and weigh it against your initial options and use what you need.

TIP #4

Don’t give the impression that you always have it together and don’t walk around with your feelings on your sleeve, but be honest with yourself and honest with family, clients or subordinates.

TIP #5

Meditate or pray if you need some inner peace. Sometimes quiet time makes a big difference. Try http://calm.com

Final Tip:

Don’t be so strong that you find yourself on an island all alone in your mind or in life. We all need help sometime. It takes strength and courage to admit that you need help. Don’t be TOO STRONG!