Making a way out of no way!
(Excerpts from Book: Radiate the Brain & Change the Game)
It’s not about being better than anyone else, it’s about knowing that there is something out there for you. If you look on the inside of you, the tools you need are all right there. Once you look inside, you can’t deny what’s there, and you will be charged to use it with all that you’ve got!
I understand that before you can do, you have to learn, but when you use your internal tools, skills, or gifts you are speaking for yourself. You are taking a stand and thinking and deciding for yourself what you want or don’t want.
Will I have a job for the next 25 years and hopefully retire, knowing it’s not enough money to live off of, and live with needs unmet? Should I consider being unconventional and working for myself on the side until the demand grows, and I am able to walk away from my job because I no longer need it?
Sometimes it can be scary to stand alone and stand for something without knowing who will support you, who will donate (time, money, or whatever), who will look at you as if you’re crazy, or who will consider you a trouble maker. That is why some people are told that they are afraid of success…they think of all of the negatives and never make a move.
They don’t seem to realize, that is the admission for the path of opportunity, and not everybody will walk the high wire without the net. Rarely is anything in life singular (relationships, making a baby, making clothes, preparing a dish of food, the reason for an argument, etc.), almost everything is compounded…the mental, the physical, and the un- explainable (failures and success).
Nothing should be assumed. Straight talk, clear understanding, and direct communication should be the way we relate because this would help us to realize the value of each other (especially in relationships). Many times, fear and insecurity lives within our daily relationships causing us to fail each other.
The way our society is built is that it’s nearly impossible to adopt this train of thought. We are products of our environment, and if nobody is thinking and acting this way, we say to ourselves, “I better do what everybody else is doing…I’d better fit in.” We have got to be able to be unpopular. We have got to learn how to be proud to be unpopular and take a stance for what we know is right and not for what is popular (for ourselves).
Look at the music industry…No music artist is truly comfortable creating their own sound outside of how they were initially introduced. Why, because the music industry only wants what is popular. Nobody wants to take a chance (RISK) of exposing himself or herself to only find out that they can’t make as much MONEY if they tried something new or different.
That’s the same basic mindset that people take in dealing with one another. I wanted to be cool, and I wanted to look fly (ya, feel me or jus make it do what it do). That sounds good but we need a true state of consciousness, not an enhanced vocabulary or mentality for slang or hip-hop. Get the consciousness first, and then add the rest.
Here is a list of 5 points that you may easily identify with.
1. You have to learn to think for yourself. You have to become immune to peer pressure if you want to think for yourself. When your friends or older siblings decide to do things, it doesn’t mean that you should do it too. Everything is not meant for everybody.
You have to follow your own train of thought. Of course, I’m not talking about negative things. You know in your heart and you know from common sense the difference between right and wrong. If it makes sense logically, I’d say you could do it in most cases.
2. If you get a specific feeling about it and that feeling is good, once again, you do it in most cases. If the feeling that you feel gives you an uncomfortable feeling or a feeling of uncertainty, I’d say you probably want to think about it and, more than likely, not do whatever it is that you’re contemplating.
Let me be clear, you don’t do everything that feels good to you. Good decisions aren’t based solely on what makes you feel good.
In this life, you’re going to find out that there are roles, phases, and stages that will change. Sometimes they change fast, sometimes slowly, and sometimes not very much at all. For example: When you’re 3 or 4 years old, you probably enjoy children’s programs such as Sesame Street, Electric Company, Barney, Teletubbies, and Mario. However, when you are 7 or 8 you may like Power Rangers, Super Friends, or Ninja Turtles, and then, finally, when you are between the ages of 12 to 15, you may like X-men, Spiderman, and the like. Likewise, girls go from the non-descriptive dolls to Barbie or the Brats dolls. These are the phases that we all go through at various stages in our lives.
3. This can happen two, three, or more times in your lifetime. I believe that these stages lead you to the position that you will have at that point. For instance, if you were a laborer at one point, at another point you were a painter, and then at another point in life you were putting up blinds, you may be a handyman. However, after being a handyman you go to school and decide to become a carpenter, and etc. Similarly, if you have ever done any filing at one phase in life, typing at another phase, or answering phones at yet another phase in your life, you may ultimately become an administrative assistant.
All of these experiences can position you with a job, a career, or just simply afford you expertise in those areas. You can speak about them, talk about them, and probably teach someone else about those jobs because you have done it. Therefore, you can speak for yourself because you have the experience to do so.
Our work experiences make us who we are (as far as a profession); our personality traits determine how we act and how we feel. A lot of your experiences will dictate what direction your profession is likely headed. As you continue to add on to your experience, you will get better and better, and hopefully along the way, you will enhance your value as a person and as an employee. As you continue to improve, you should also be rewarded internally and financially. You can then rise through the ranks from being a good employee to an excellent employee.
4. Ultimately you have to recognize that God has a plan for your life. Many times, our experiences are a part of His plan to get us to another level or where He wants us to be. Many times we make bad choices and that delays the process. Through this process, you should find the real you. What is it that you’re good at? What are you passionate about? Once you find it, hold on to it, and never let it go. In most cases (or maybe not all), that is the arena you should be in.
I’ll take myself for an example. I’ve been running my mouth ever since I can remember. What kind of job can you perform as a result of talking a lot? You can be a preacher, a politician, a salesman, a singer, or a public speaker. These are positions that call for you to talk and interact with people. I enjoy speaking to people, so it’s easy for me to gravitate to this type of work. Sometimes you can get paid a lot and sometimes not at all, but if it’s something that you really like, the money won’t always be an issue.
5. Once you start to enjoy sharing your gift, you build confidence. You should be clear on the fact that confidence is not cockiness. Nobody embraces arrogance and cockiness. If your passion is part of God’s plan, you should know it. You should feel really good about it, and you’ll do it well. God’s purpose for us remains the same. We are usually the ones who mess up the plan. You have to make a sacrifice for anything worth having. There will be times when you have to miss out on hanging with friends, going to the movies, watching your favorite TV shows, talking on the phone, and so on. If you’re an athlete, dancer, or singer, you will learn that you have to practice to master your craft.
Everybody isn’t meant to be a superstar athlete or artist. There is nothing wrong with wanting it, but if that’s not God’s plan for you, you are just wasting your time. The unfortunate thing about that is that it might take some time before you realize it. That’s why you have to be in tune with God and have a personal relationship with Him. We’re all different, yet the same.
That’s why it’s good to have associations or to be connected to the Boys Club, the YMCA, the choir, the usher board, or the board of trustees, etc. It’s not just about doing those things, but you learn about yourself and other people as well. You also learn a skill, a craft, and particular disciplines; you gain that experience that I talked about earlier. In addition, you position yourself to have an experience that many others may never have. You’ll find out if you’re a leader, and you’ll find that you and I should have something in common: we can think for ourselves.
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