Making a way out of no way!
Our words are used to describe beauty, they are use to describe our feelings, emotions and our thoughts. They help us to communicate. Can you imagine reading a book or instructions to do something without words…it can’t be done without words!
There is a responsibility involved when it comes to choosing accurate and adequate expressions of our intentions towards one another. I understand that we are living in a politically correct society and sometimes we probably need to loosen up, but when it comes to having fun, relaxing or conducting business you want to be and you need to be understood.
As we mature and become seasoned adults we have a responsibility to train those that are younger than us. I’m referring to our children, our grandchildren and many others in our community.
When I was a kid our dad told us that he wanted us to be better than he. He wanted us to be smarter, make more money and even have a better quality of life. I thought he was crazy when I heard this. I kept saying to myself I would never want anyone to be better than me.
As I matured I learned that if my dad couldn’t give us better, at least he would have hope that we would have better, even if we stumbled on to it. As an adult I now realize how powerful that is. Now that I’m a father, I also want my kids to be better than me. I can also remember times when my dad would tell us that if we got into trouble we’d better let him know before anyone else told him. I remember doing exactly what he told me. I got in trouble at school, and it killed me to tell on myself. After I built up the courage to tell on myself, my dad said “I’m glad you told me son, after my nap, I’m going to bust your backside wide open”.
I was devastated, I mean scared to death. The only thing that I could think about was the pain, the tears and my backside bleeding and that to sit down would bring me more pain. The Power of Our Words is a mighty thing. The point I’m making is that the impression made with words can make us or brake us.
This is equally important as it relates to training, teaching or trying to instill a discipline, or value in someone. It’s not just important, but vitally important that we watch negative words or words that convey multiple definitions.
Words that carry heavy impact such as:
Always
Never
Don’t
These words should be used with caution. Swearing and cursing for instance can stunt a child’s growth to detrimental proportions. You see we are products of our environment and if a child is constantly exposed to that behavior he or she can be psychologically damaged.
People only know what they’ve been exposed to. If you want to be better you have to be willing to change (sometimes the outside but definitely the inside). For instance, when two people argue and they use the words never and always the discussion usually goes into an entirely different direction (a negative direction).
When a husband comes home late from work and the wife says why do you always have to come home late, or little Johnny spills juice in his room and mommy comes into his room to only find out that something is slippery or sticky on the floor and she tells Johnny you never keep your room clean.
It takes so much longer to get to the real point. Usually the conversation moves in a non-desirable direction and that’s because of the words used. The true topic is lost in the word shuffle or the inappropriate word usage.
There is a responsibility involved when it comes to choosing accurate and adequate expressions of our intentions towards one another. I understand that we are living in a politically correct society and sometimes we probably need to loosen up, but when it comes to having fun, relaxing or conducting business you want to be and you need to be understood.
As we mature and become seasoned adults we have a responsibility to train those that are younger than us. I’m referring to our children, our grandchildren and many others in our community.
When I was a kid our dad told us that he wanted us to be better than he. He wanted us to be smarter, make more money and even have a better quality of life. I thought he was crazy when I heard this. I kept saying to myself I would never want anyone to be better than me.
As I matured I learned that if my dad couldn’t give us better, at least he would have hope that we would have better, even if we stumbled on to it. As an adult I now realize how powerful that is. Now that I’m a father, I also want my kids to be better than me. I can also remember times when my dad would tell us that if we got into trouble we’d better let him know before anyone else told him. I remember doing exactly what he told me. I got in trouble at school, and it killed me to tell on myself. After I built up the courage to tell on myself, my dad said “I’m glad you told me son, after my nap, I’m going to bust your backside wide open”.
I was devastated, I mean scared to death. The only thing that I could think about was the pain, the tears and my backside bleeding and that to sit down would bring me more pain. The Power of Our Words is a mighty thing. The point I’m making is that the impression made with words can make us or brake us.
This is equally important as it relates to training, teaching or trying to instill a discipline, or value in someone. It’s not just important, but vitally important that we watch negative words or words that convey multiple definitions.
Words that carry heavy impact such as:
Always
Never
Don’t
These words should be used with caution. Swearing and cursing for instance can stunt a child’s growth to detrimental proportions. You see we are products of our environment and if a child is constantly exposed to that behavior he or she can be psychologically damaged.
People only know what they’ve been exposed to. If you want to be better you have to be willing to change (sometimes the outside but definitely the inside). For instance, when two people argue and they use the words never and always the discussion usually goes into an entirely different direction (a negative direction).
When a husband comes home late from work and the wife says why do you always have to come home late, or little Johnny spills juice in his room and mommy comes into his room to only find out that something is slippery or sticky on the floor and she tells Johnny you never keep your room clean.
It takes so much longer to get to the real point. Usually the conversation moves in a non-desirable direction and that’s because of the words used. The true topic is lost in the word shuffle or the inappropriate word usage.
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